“Can I Pet Your Dog?” It’s Okay To Say NO

Sometimes, pet parents are all about strangers loving on their dog with lots of petting and praise. Other times, not so much. Just like dogs, two-legged strangers may lack impulse control and feel like every dog is entitled to their affection. That’s why it’s important to help give your dog the space they deserve to be happy and confident.

1. Don’t feel bad. Saying “no” doesn’t make you mean.

It’s hard to tell people they’ve crossed a boundary, especially if they didn’t bother to ask in the first place. Your dog may need space due to being in training, reactive, shy, or any number of other reasons that just aren’t anyone’s business. Maybe it’s just flu season and you don’t know how clean the stranger’s hands are! Whatever your reasons for not wanting people to pet your dog, you are not obligated to explain yourself or apologize, no matter how many times they may ask.

2. Acknowledging compliments isn’t an invitation.

It’s okay to thank people for complimenting your dog, but an acknowledgment is not an invitation to touch. If people approach anyway, it’s okay to say, “Please don’t come any closer.” Nothing else should be necessary, including an explanation. Does the stranger continue to approach? Feel free to walk away.

3. Try a yellow ribbon.

A few years ago, dog parents, tired of their dogs being unwelcomely approached, founded The Yellow Dog Project, a global movement for pets who need space. By tying a yellow ribbon to your dog’s collar or leash, you’re broadcasting that your dog shouldn’t be petted by strangers. A yellow ribbon is not necessarily a sign of aggression, but rather a sign that the dog, for whatever reason, needs space. You may have to briefly explain what the yellow ribbon means, but it will probably help, especially as the trend continues to catch on.

4. Don’t apologize.

You don’t owe anyone an apology for not letting them pet your dog. As the dog’s handler, it’s your job to protect them and look out for their best interest. There’s nothing wrong with doing the best for your pet. Your dog deserves personal space and you have every right to maintain boundaries so they won’t have to be on the receiving end of unwanted attention.

Watching out for your dog reinforces your role as the leader and makes them feel safe, strengthening your bond and setting up good expectations. Even if you don’t mind your dog being pet as long as the petter asks, it’s okay to keep you and your dog’s business to yourselves!